Gay Singaporean speaks about the difficulties of being a homosexual
Being a homosexual in Singapore can be pretty tough, as Audi Khalid can attest to.
The 27-year-old recently came out of the closet via an interview with DearStraightPeople.com, and highlighted some of the challenges homosexuals in Singapore have to deal with.
In the wide-ranging interview, Audi touched on several issues, such as how being a part of the gay scene allowed him to interact with people of various economic backgrounds. He even admitted that drug use was rampant in the gay community.
The topic, however, that caught our attention the most though was the discrimination that homosexuals face in everyday Singapore.
Discrimination from within the gay community
Audi feels that being accepted by Singaporeans is a challenge, despite activists actively campaigning for acceptance of the gay community. Homosexuals are also discriminated on a number of attributes within the community, such as their appearance and even on the number of people they have slept with.
“You will be discriminated by anything; your height, your job, your face, your weight, your skin colour, your muscles and how many guys have slept with you.”
These are some of the harsh realities that homosexuals may have to go through.
“If you’re not part of the cool clique, you stand in the rejects corner, in the shadows, ignored,”
Audi highlights on the pressure in the gay scene to be the popular one, to avoid being an outcast.
Discrimination from his parents
Other challenges include having his parents find out that he was a homosexual.
Audi explained that his parents had difficulty coming to terms with his homosexuality, resulting in loud arguments eventually leading to a cracks in the family.
“There were a few years where our relationship was deteriorating, and in some cases ended up in shouting matches.”
Family ties seem to have gotten better in recent times, but his parents have yet to accept him the way he is.
“Recently though it has mellowed out. I have mellowed out as well. My career is good, I’m paying the bills, my heart is fixated on social issues of the gay community and on the larger Singapore community.”
“I have also matured in my thinking. This is not to say that they [his parents] have accepted me though.”
A change of mindset
Although his sexual identity entails a number of challenges, Audi stands by his decision to come out as he believes the choice has only increased his chances of being successful.
“With the positive experience I’ve had coming out, suddenly it seemed the possibilities of achieving success were higher.”
Audi’s story is an example of how Singaporeans are being more acceptive towards homosexuals. Events such as Pink Dot are indicative of how Singaporeans are having a change of mindset especially with the crowds at LGBT events increasing every year.
This will only serve as an impetus for more homosexuals to come out and hopefully embrace their sexual identity.
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