Singapore Mother Turns Daughter Against Ex-Husband With False Sexual Abuse Allegations
Are you sitting down? Good, because here comes a heady dose of mid-week drama, courtesy of a Singapore mother who apparently really dislikes her ex-husband.
The mother-of-two conducted an elaborate psy-ops campaign to turn her children against their father, her ex-husband.
Together with a male colleague, they managed to instill such hatred in her children that her daughter actually made a false allegation of sexual abuse against him.
According to The Straits Times, she called him a “mega-evolved sexual fetishist womanising pervert”.
Oh yeah. It gets better too.
The mother’s ‘cancer magician’ claimed to be able to heal tumours
Our story begins in Apr 2016, when divorce proceedings between them first began.
The court heard that during this time, the father and his 2 children enjoyed a loving relationship. They quite liked spending time together, as any child might with a parent they liked.
His daughter and son are aged 15 and 9 now respectively, so at the time they would likely have been 11 and 5.
In Oct 2016, the mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Her male colleague, whom the father claims is actually her lover, moved in with her. The colleague touted having nebulous powers capable of healing her tumours.
We couldn’t find photos of a cancer magician, because they don’t exist, so here’s the next best thing
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For clarification, he has no medical training of any sort. Nonetheless, she hired him as an ‘executive personal assistant’ at $15,000 a month for his ‘healing’.
Colleague performed breast surgery at home
In Feb 2018, the father heard that the colleague had performed a ‘home mastectomy’ on the mother. The court was shown gruesome pictures of the mother’s large chest wounds and fleshy lumps that were supposedly ‘tumours’.
These operations were performed possibly in front of the children. At the very least, they were aware of it.
Feeling quite reasonably apprehensive, the father applied to take over custody of the children in the interim. A district judge granted his request for a Personal Protection Order, but the mother appealed the decision to the High Court.
The appeals apparently included “greatly disturbing” material, according to The Straits Times.
The High Court judge noted that the children’s statements, which were drafted by the colleague, contained “biblical references”. They also repeated allegations made by the mother and the colleague in their own statements filed from March 2018.
Despite their formerly loving relationship, the children’s attitudes towards their father rapidly soured after the appeal. The mother’s appeal failed. After a difficult handover in Nov 2018, the court placed the children in their father’s care.
They however found their way back to their mother after only a day.
The High Court judge then ordered that they be placed in a home temporarily. It took them just a month to get away again and return to their mother.
Daughter started hurling allegations of sexual abuse
In Jun and Jul 2019, the daughter began alleging that her father had sexually abused both her and her brother.
The accusations, which were first posted on social media, were later proven to be false.
Image sourced from daughter’s now-deleted Instagram post
The mother’s earlier statements to the court also included similar allegations of sexual assault.
Still, some online news outlets reported on the sordid story after coming across the daughter’s social media posts. In their coverage, the father was also accused of sexually grooming his children and threatening to rape the mother.
In these posts, they referred to him as a ‘mega pervert fetishist’.
A subsequent police investigation revealed no corroborating evidence. They did however find ‘indications’ of coaching and parental alienation by the mother.
Investigators noted that many of the details contained in the social media posts could only have come from the mother.
The daughter then admitted in a police report that she and her brother were solely responsible for the allegations. The mother later admitted that their ‘confession’ was just an attempt to shift the blame away from her.
Court sentences mother to prison
The High Court sentenced the mother on 10 Jan to a week’s prison for contempt of court. She is appealing the sentence.
The judgement comes after the father filed an order of committal against the mother, having borne the brunt of an unwarranted media storm against him.
The High Court agreed with his claim that she had breached a court order “not to make disparaging remarks about [him] to the children”.
The judge explained that the purpose of the court order was, first and foremost, to protect the children. She noted that these events have been highly traumatic, and that the mother has undermined her children’s emotional and psychological well-being by involving them in the divorce proceedings.
Children remanded under mum’s care due to her poor health
The judge found that, in light of the mother’s poor health, the children’s relationship with their father was especially important. Doctors diagnosed the mother with stage 4 breast cancer in Sep 2018.
She said,
The children should be able to rely on the other parent in their lives…ultimately it is the parents above all who must protect and promote their children’s welfare.
That having been said, the children have still been remanded to their mother’s care. The judge decided that, considering the mother’s health, it would be worse for the children if they were separated from her.
She concluded by stating her hope that in time, the father’s relationship with his children could be repaired. She wished that, as they grew up and became more mature, the children might come to understand their father’s efforts to try and protect them.
Ramifications of divorce is profound
It’s sad to see a family being ripped apart by such astonishing levels of trauma.
Nobody deserves the hell they’ve been through – the children seem to have been negatively influenced; the mother has stage 4 cancer; and the father went through social media hell.
But one thing’s a given, no matter how messy a divorce can be, the mother should have known better than to drag her own daughter into the mire by making false sexual abuse allegations.
She obviously failed to consider the ramifications and negative effects of the divorce on her children.
Featured image adapted from Getty Images. Image used is for illustration purposes only.
