MS Explains: How the dating pilot for Singapore civil servants works
For singles tired of swiping through dating profiles, a new government dating pilot offers a rather different way to find love.
Called FirstDate, the initiative by the Government Technology Agency of Singapore (GovTech) matches public officers aged 21 to 35 based on their interests, habits, values, and preferences.
FirstDate in a nutshell
Instead of browsing an endless stream of potential partners, users receive one match at a time.
They can read about the person, assess their compatibility and decide whether they want to take things further.
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There are a few notable features too.
Users can choose an alias instead of displaying their real name, and they cannot see their match’s face before deciding whether to connect.
The pilot has already produced some unexpected introductions.
One 35-year-old woman, who goes by Yvelyn, said that her first match was a 21-year-old man.
The pair never progressed to a connection, but her experience offers a glimpse into how the system works.
Source: @yvelyn_xiaoyi on Instagram
Here’s a more in-depth look into FirstDate, from signing up to getting matched.
1. Sign up with Singpass and answer about 30 questions
FirstDate is currently a pilot for public officers aged 21 to 35 across the public service.
To participate, eligible users sign in using Singpass and complete a questionnaire with questions about themselves, according to CNA.
These cover their interests, habits, values, and preferences, helping the system identify people who may be compatible.
Users can also indicate their preferred age range and other relationship preferences.
For Yvelyn, the registration process was straightforward.
She completed the questionnaire and received an SMS confirming her registration, along with information about the matching schedule.
She was drawn to the initiative because she was curious about dating and relationships, and appreciated the idea of the government supporting people beyond their work and careers.
2. Make up an alias instead of using your real name
One interesting aspect of FirstDate is that users do not have to introduce themselves to their matches using their real names.
Instead, they can use a profile name or alias.
Source: @yvelyn_xiaoyi on Instagram
This offers some separation between a person’s identity and their dating profile, although users must still verify their identities through Singpass when registering.
The platform also limits profile visibility: users can only view the profile of the person they are matched with.
Contact details are not immediately shared. Both parties must accept the match before they can get in touch directly.
These measures are intended to give users more control over when they reveal their identities and take a connection beyond the platform.
3. Get one match at a time, but without seeing their face
Once the matching process begins, users may receive a notification telling them that a match is available.
Rather than seeing a photograph, they are introduced to the person through their profile information.
This includes the person’s profile name, interests and other details that help users understand what they might be like.
They also receive a compatibility score and a personal note.
Source: FirstDate website
The idea is to encourage people to consider someone’s personality, values and lifestyle before making a decision based on appearance.
Yvelyn found this approach particularly interesting.
“As a woman, I appreciate the idea of being understood for my personality, values and life experiences, rather than just how I look,” she told MS News.
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The system also aims to reduce what some dating app users experience as swipe fatigue by offering fewer introductions at a time.
However, getting a match does not guarantee that both people will be interested in pursuing it.
4. Decide within three days whether to accept, and exchange Telegram accounts if accepting
After receiving a match, both users have three days to decide whether to accept the introduction.
If both say yes, their Telegram contact details are shared, allowing them to start chatting and arrange a possible date.
Source: FirstDate website
If either person declines, the match does not proceed.
Users can then be considered for a subsequent matching cycle, although a new match is not guaranteed every round.
This is what happened to Yvelyn after she received her first introduction.
The 35-year-old was matched with a man aged 21, a 14-year age gap she did not expect.
She had not accepted the match yet because she was planning to make a video and ask her followers whether she should go ahead.
However, before the deadline, she received a message saying that the match would not move forward.
Source: @yvelyn_xiaoyi on Instagram
“It’s a two-way matching process,” she explained.
Yvelyn said she was unsure what had happened on the man’s side, but thought he might have skipped the match.
She felt a little disappointed, describing it as a missed opportunity to get to know someone new.
Still, she plans to give the platform another chance rather than accepting a match simply for the sake of it.
“I’m serious about finding a long-term partner, so I won’t just accept any match. I’ll still take my time to read the profile carefully before making a decision,” she said.
“For me, compatibility is more important than simply getting matched.”
5. Try suggested activities if you decide to meet
If both users accept the match and decide to meet in person, FirstDate offers suggested activities called Date Quests to help break the ice.
These can give a pair something to do together while getting to know each other, rather than relying entirely on conversation.
The platform’s terms also state that matched pairs may qualify for vouchers during promotional periods by completing certain activities, such as trying a dish neither has eaten before.
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Users are also asked to provide feedback after each match.
This includes questions about whether they met in person, helping the team evaluate the pilot and improve the experience.
As with any dating introduction, though, the decision to continue getting to know someone ultimately rests with the two people involved.
6. Why does FirstDate use an algorithm to match people?
FirstDate originated from a question among GovTech officers: does having more potential matches necessarily make it easier to find a suitable partner?
The team wanted to explore whether prioritising compatibility and offering fewer matches at a time could encourage users to give each introduction more thought.
According to the Straits Times (ST), the pilot uses the Gale-Shapley Stable Marriage algorithm, a mathematical approach developed by David Gale and Lloyd Shapley in 1962.
The algorithm is designed to produce stable pairings between two groups based on their preferences.
It has also been used in other matching systems, including those that pair doctors with hospital residencies and students with schools.
For FirstDate, questionnaire responses help inform the matching process.
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However, an algorithm cannot guarantee romantic chemistry.
Even when two people are matched, either may decide not to proceed.
7. Can anyone in Singapore sign up?
Not at the moment.
FirstDate is a pilot being tested among public officers aged 21 to 35. GovTech has said that the age range allows the team to test the product with a more focused group of users.
Participants will also not be matched with colleagues from the same government agency, according to GovTech.
The initiative is not yet open to the wider public, and no decision has been made on whether it will be expanded beyond the pilot.
According to the FirstDate website, applications for the current cycle have closed, with sign-ups set to reopen on 20 Oct 2026.
For Yvelyn, the first introduction did not lead to a date. But she remains hopeful about finding a long-term partner through the platform.
“I believe women can be independent and still want love and companionship,” she told MS News.
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Featured image adapted from FirstDate website and courtesy of MS News reader.
