Woman Goes On 100 Dates In A Year After Breaking Up & Losing Job
Everyone copes with breakups differently. Some go on shopping sprees, and others hit the gym.
But a 32-year-old vlogger in China, who goes by the nickname Baozhuzi, decided to dive head-first into dating.
After parting ways with her boyfriend of eight years and losing her job in the same period, she dated over 100 men.
She shared with NetEase News her worries about her ticking biological clock because she wants to have children.
Woman went on over 100 dates in a year
In a short NetEase News documentary, 32-year-old Baozhuzi said she lived and worked in Beijing for 10 years.
At the end of 2021, her boyfriend of eight years suddenly broke up with her. As luck would have it, two weeks later, she lost her well-paying job.
It was the only relationship she had ever been in. But in just another two weeks, she decided to get back into the dating game.
Source: 墙内热搜 on YouTube
Over the next year, she went on dates with over 100 men, sometimes meeting three people daily.
Rationalising her serial-dater behaviour, Baozhuzi said, “Dressing up is so troublesome.” So, when she looks good, she makes it a point to meet more people in a day.
She approached the dating experience with an open mind to connect with different types of people.
Feels pressured to date because she wants kids
While Baozhuzi does not feel that her age should not be a push factor, she shares that it is a concern because she wants to have not one, but two children.
China considers pregnancies for women 35 and above high-risk. This thought worries her — it became a form of pressure in her dating life.
Source: 墙内热搜 on YouTube
In China, women who are over 27 and unmarried are often described as “leftover women”.
When asked how she feels about dating in her 30s, Baozhuzi expressed that age shouldn’t be a constraint.
The way we measure our lives is often self-imposed, she said. “Assessing the achievement of life goals by age is simply a social construct.”
But she noted that everyone’s life path is different, and there’s no point in bending to societal pressure.
Met boyfriend in November
These days, Baozhuzi takes life one day at a time.
“Hard work pays off in everything we do except love,” she said.
No matter how hard you work at love, you cannot expect any reward.
Nonetheless, Baozhuzi might still have a fairytale happily ever after in her books.
After meeting over 100 men, she recently met someone special to her in November 2022, reported NetEase News.
Source: 墙内热搜 on YouTube
Baozhuzi has faced and accepted the many curveballs life has thrown her.
She said, “You just need to believe that you can keep walking forward because you have to.”
Documentary goes viral on Weibo
Baozhuzi’s documentary resonated with many, and her video went viral on Weibo, garnering over 3.42 million views in nine days.
Her dating life was not without its critics.
Translation: Dating 100 people is too ridiculous. So many resources
Source: Weibo
However, many also supported her and the life advice she dished out.
Translation: Don’t settle. Marrying the wrong person will be a heavier price than being single. Also, it’s not a sin for women not to marry. Single life has its joys
Source: Weibo
Some also encouraged her to be herself and not to get pressured by society.
Translation: 1. 32 is very young. Youth should not be wasted on meaningless things. Instead of going on with an unsuitable person, end it and celebrate. 2. It’s the end of the year, and topics on marriage and “older leftover women” are emerging again. Be yourself, don’t be pressured
Source: Weibo
After all, 32 is still a young age, said this netizen.
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Featured image adapted from 墙内热搜 on YouTube.
